Book Review: Sheet Music

Okay, so a comment I had yesterday was asking about how we deal with being apart for so long…you know, the married part of it all. All I can say to that is, it’s difficult. We’ve struggled with finding a balance for three (?) years. I’ll go into more of how we handle being apart in a post devoted to that subject. Main point: COMMUNICATE!  But now, I want to review something related that we found while we were apart this time that really helped us.

I’m a member of Mothers of Preschoolers (aka MOPs). One of the recent topics was intimacy in the marriage and how to keep it hot after kids. I’m sure everyone with kids can relate to the weariness that follows. Anyway, I happened to miss this particular meeting but the girl who took notes for me sent them along and added was a book, Sheet Music: Uncovering Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage.

I, of course, googled and read the description. There is always room for improvement in this area in our marriage (isn’t there in everyones?) so I thought why not. My Pastor is so good about reminding us to watch what we are reading/watching/etc, because so often even “Christian” books can get into some trouble. But, after praying, I felt comfortable with this book.

Yall, I’m not going to go into details as I know better than that, but I must say, this is a great read. I was enjoying it so much that EP actually went to two stores in NC to find, buy and read while he was gone. EP does not read much outside of scripts. He has never shown any interest in any book I have ever read fiction or non fiction. So, imagine my surprise (and sheer delight) when he was willing and wanting to read this to!!

We both agree this book hits the nail on the head with respect to intimacy in marriage. I thought the author (male) was reading my mail when reading the “husbands this is what your wife needs” sections (including help around the house more!!  i nearly fainted!)  and EP said he agreed with everything in his section as well. At the same time, it was hugely convicting of how selfish we can each become. Our generation is so “its all about me” –but when you are married, by scripture, it isn’t all about you first. This book really opened the lines of communication in our marriage. We are talking much more about things that we put aside for a long time due to kids.

This book is for MARRIED or engaged couples. It will have no relevance to you if you are not married. God created sex as an institution between husband and wife. He addresses both the previously sexually active and the virgins about to get married…every chapter was worth reading. We’ve been married almost 6 years but both had a lot to comment on the “before you get married” chapter. In fact, that chapter had both of us longing for a second honeymoon. (Because, if you’ve never heard, our first one was a doozy) Taking time off from parenting is a little hard right now, but we are bypassing gifts of all kinds this year to really go all out for 24 hours alone.

We owe it to our marriage to make every aspect outstanding. God created husband and wife to be this way.

Anyway, HIGHLY recommend. I would offer you locals one of my two copies, but I’m afraid we both underlined and took notes…and you don’t really need to know THAT much about us now do you??

****PS I did ask EP permission to write this.  We both agreed that it was so insightful that we thought we should share. *****